Do you have roommate problems? A better question might be "who doesn't?" My problem is mostly based around intimate time. I think that it's okay to have a room to yourself if you want to do it. If asked in the correct way, I don't see a problem in asking your roommate to leave.
So many times I've overheard people tell their roommates, "If you want the room to yourself, you could just tell me and I'll leave" or, "at least you can leave a message on the door."
I know I wouldn't come in unless it was an emergency. However, what do you do if you walk into your room and your roommate is with someone intimately? I suggest ignoring them. After all if they didn't tell you to leave and if they wanted to be alone, they could put a message on the door before you came home, right? Am I wrong in thinking that all of us have to share rooms together?
I'm also pissed about other people sleeping in somebody else's room in the middle of the day, especially, when they live down the hall. Sometimes we all need to relax and let shit out. I think we should be able to do it in our own damned rooms. We all have enough problems to worry about...our roommate's girl/boyfriends should not be one of them.
This is not how I'm going to live and it should not be how you have to live either. I suggest we all go and make rules on what to do in certain circumstances. Like a sock on the door knob, a spoon in the corner, a smiley face w/ a cigarette or even a simple note stating when you'll be "done." Life would be so much easier if we could follow the easy rules.
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Why don't all of you just grow up?? The world has so many bigger problems than walking in on your roommate while "doing it". You have the right to be there. If they don't like it, then let them go outside, and "do it" on, say, the street?
Major: Sowk Comments:
cool
Name:Terri Tancsak Major: I am not in the military Comments:
I think the guy who wrote this article is 100% correct,, but if it were him on the inside of the room, he sure as hell wouldn't complain! LOL
I think its a very true articlle, even though I never actuallly had a dorm room to myself, as I never wen to a four yr school..
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Living in a tiny room with someone you probably just meet is just begging for trouble. But throw in lack of communication and respect, shit just hits the fan. After living with a a girl who kept dirty dishes in her desk drawers, a girl who had a different guy in the room every night, a girl who tried to cut off her pet ferret's head and I got into a fist fight with, I moved the hell off campus. Things got better? Ha Ha Ha. Don't fool yourselves. I moved in with the alcoholic from hell. Then I found salvation. I moved in with members of the opposite sex. But DO NOT share a bathroom. (Dirty creatures, boys are) It has been the most serene experience. They are laid back, they don't want to gossip, and they don't borrow my clothes or shoes without asking, or at all for that matter. They also don't flirt with my boyfriends or get P.M.S.(that way I am the only one that gets bitchy once a month). Trust me on this one. Best advice you will ever get on the roomie situation.
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For those who are forced to live on-campus (freshmen), I couldn't agree more with the previous entry. It's a new experience for most people, living with someone else. Things often start out great. If there is no communication though, you can actually watch things crumble from a distance like a construction site. Remember if you have a complaint that your roommmate probably has a complaint as well.
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It's easy to say that everyone should communicate more openly, but realisticly that is pretty tough. For most people about the age of college maturity, there is a tendancy to keep problems in until the become unbearable. Then, you communicate about it. And when you do, it all spills out and they don't communicate effectivly or constructivly. Also, I have noticed that by the time it spills out, they have already made up their minds on how to solve the problem(s) making communcation that much more strained. My advice to all my fellow dorm rats- every once in a while, ask your roommate is there is anything that is bothering him or her, and other rat: for GOD sakes tell him or her no matter how small! AND no one take any of this too seriously. If you were really that concerned about living conditions and privacy, you would move off campus in the first place.
Name:Patrick Major: Information Systems. Comments:
WEll, I guess I see where that could definitely be a problem, I just haven't had quite the same situations with my roommate this semester.
Name:Brian Korte Comments:
One thing most people have the hardest time with is communications. It sounds like with a little communication, all can be good once again. That's the reasoning behind the "roommate contracts" that your RAs and RDs have available. It gives you and your roommate a chance to see how the other feels about particular scenarios, and how you two plan to deal with them as they come up.
