A friend of mine is really hurting. I am so scared for her and I worry that she is going to do something really desperate. She won't tell anyone what's wrong and I don't know how I can help her. I feel like she is fading away from me.
Sincerely,
Worried Sick
Dear Worried Sick,
Your friend is, for whatever reason, going through a hard time right now. I know that you want to help her, but the fact remains that if she wanted you to know, she would tell you. The best thing to do is to let her know that you will be understanding and completely supportive. Even if she doesn't tell you what's wrong, it makes worlds
of difference to know that someone genuinely cares when you are sad. Encourage her to go talk with someone at the counseling center or to see a doctor. She may have the signs of clinical depression. The best thing you can do for her is show her love and offer her help, but don't pressure or badger her.
However, if she is suicidal, it is a whole different ball game. You might have to go beyond her wishes and call her parents or trained professional for help. Most people who threaten to kill themselves eventually carry that threat out. Do not wait for things to get so serious that there is no hope for her. She may be angry with you and want to end the friendship, but the important thing is to keep her alive. You are both in my prayers.
Love,
Nikki
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