How Do I Know if My Partner Has Changed?

          Here are some questions you can ask yourself that might help you decided whether your partner has changed enough for you to feel safe and secure with them. These include:

1. Has your partner stopped being violent or threatening towards me and others?
2. Does my partner still make me afraid when I am with them?
3. Is my partner able to be angry without becoming verbally or physically abusive?
4. Am I able to express anger toward them with out being attacked?
5. Is my partner able to hear and respect what I am saying even though they may not agree with me?
6. Can my partner negotiate with me without being accusatory or controlling?
7. Can my partner respect my right to say “no”?
8. Is my partner able to let me know what they are feeling most of the time?
9. Is my partner able to express feelings other than anger?
10. Does my partner still make me feel responsible for their anger and frustrations?
11. Does my partner respect my right to be different and to make my own decisions?
12. Do I feel respected and listened to when I want to speak?
13. Can I got out, go to school, or get a job without their “permission”?

For more information, contact the Office of Substance Abuse & Sexual Assault Education

Tyler Hall

831-5709